Choose In Podcast
Choose In Podcast
As a survivor of betrayal, infidelity, trauma, and emotional abuse, I Chose In to doing the hard work necessary to see through the manipulation, deceit, and lies that came from being the spouse of an addict. I had to accept that this was my life. The only way to heal was to go through the pain, to see it clear, and work through it. Today, I help others find their way from feeling shattered and hopeless to strong and empowered. You are not alone. You are not the only one that is experiencing these types of things. There is absolutely healing and happiness ahead IF you do what is required to get there. I am the Author of Cutting Ties - Healing from Betrayal Trauma as the Spouse of an Addict. As you read it, you will find I don’t shy away from the real, raw, painful truth. My podcast is no different. We can only become something more if we see the truth with clear eyes and be willing to “CHOOSE IN” to doing the hard work. I’m excited to share everything I know with all of you.
- Roxanne Kennedy Granata
Recent Podcast Episodes
Episode 61: Forgiveness is for Me, Not Someone else (part 1 mini series)
It’s common when someone who has betrayed us or caused us harm in some way is asking us to forgive and forget. This happens because they will feel better about what they did if we are no longer in pain. In this first episode of our mini series where I will be answering common questions I receive, we go over what forgiveness looks like for us.
It’s common when someone who has betrayed us or caused us harm in some way is asking us to forgive and forget. This happens because they will feel better about what they did if we are no longer in pain. In this first episode of our mini series where I will be answering common questions I receive, we go over what forgiveness looks like for us.
Episode 59: Excavating Our Life to Create a Blank Slate
When we are standing in that desolate place in our mind and feel paralyzed and stuck with all that has been lost and not knowing how to feel happy or productive again or the feeling of not knowing how to progress and move forward, create for yourself a blank slate.
When we are standing in that desolate place in our mind and feel paralyzed and stuck with all that has been lost and not knowing how to feel happy or productive again or the feeling of not knowing how to progress and move forward, create for yourself a blank slate.
Episode 58: Repost of our most popular and important Episode. E 23. What Emotional & Verbal Abuse Can Sound Like
Repost of Episode 23. Words, phrases, and actions explaining what verbal and emotional abuse looks like and sounds like. Steps we can take to learn and change these behaviors in ourselves and boundaries we can place to keep safe from others if we are being abused in this way
Repost of Episode 23. Words, phrases, and actions explaining what verbal and emotional abuse looks like and sounds like. Steps we can take to learn and change these behaviors in ourselves and boundaries we can place to keep safe from others if we are being abused in this way
Episode 57: Owning Our Worth...We Don't have to Earn it, It's Already There. -With Guest Christine Baird
Such a great interview with Christine Baird. She is a worth expert and teaches others through her podcast "The Worthfull Project" how to own their own worth. Learning that and coming to a place of "knowing" that you don't have to earn your worth fills your soul with love as you come to believe and accept that it's already in you. You just have to remember that it's there and always has been...
Such a great interview with Christine Baird. She is a worth expert and teaches others through her podcast "The Worthfull Project" how to own their own worth. Learning that and coming to a place of "knowing" that you don't have to earn your worth fills your soul with love as you come to believe and accept that it's already in you. You just have to remember that it's there and always has been. Remembering changes your life. You now know that you are deserving of all that is good and the effort and time it takes to learn, grow, and heal. You are worth it! She says, "I'M FASCINATED WITH WORTH. I'M OBSESSED WITH PODCASTS." " I teach people how to podcast like big wigs, I train teams to become in- house media producers. I speak and write about what it means to own my worth. It's the funnest job I've ever given myself". Her podcast and contact info as well as her full bio is in the show notes. She's a wildly successful capable woman and continues to go after her dreams.
Christine Bio:
Christine Baird is a podcast consultant and host who teaches micropreneurs how to podcast like bigwigs - at the scale of millions of downloads and thousands of listeners. She strategizes and launches podcasts, coaches hosts and production teams, and hosts podcasts of her own. After six years in corporate sales, Christine did a career 180 and has been working in podcasting, event production, and influencer branding since 2014. She worked on Lewis Howes’ brand, The School of Greatness, for four years, where she got to grow his top-ranked podcast from less than 1 million downloads to over 80 million. Now she’s pivoted to supporting micropreneurs create and grow their shows and impact. She consults and strategizes on personal brand and branded podcasts and she trains teams to become in-house producers of high-quality media. Christine also hosts her own podcast, the Worthfull Project, and is the co-host of the Think Like a Producer podcast. She’s passionate about owning her worth and inspiring others to do the same.
To get in touch with Christine you can follow her on:
- Instagram @worthfullchristine
- website https://christinebaird.com
Episode 56: “To Grieve Our Losses Means to Surrender to Our Feelings”
Sitting with our feelings allows us to grieve and surrender to the hold they have on us. This allows for peace as we let go. This is where we change our false beliefs, heal past wounds, and overcome the barriers that have been in our way keeping us from succeeding.
Sitting with our feelings allows us to grieve and surrender to the hold they have on us. This allows for peace as we let go. This is where we change our false beliefs, heal past wounds, and overcome the barriers that have been in our way keeping us from succeeding.
Episode 55: Why Being an Observer in Friendships and Intimate Relationships is so Important
We take key points from last weeks interview with Geoff Steurer on being an observer, and show how important that is in all our relationships. Being an observer gives us information and truth so we can accept and make better decisions.
We take key points from last weeks interview with Geoff Steurer on being an observer, and show how important that is in all our relationships. Being an observer gives us information and truth so we can accept and make better decisions.
Episode 54: What Does it Look Like When My Partner Is Choosing Recovery and What Do I Do For Myself and Personal Healing - With Guest Geoff Steurer LMFT
I am talking with Geoff Steurer LMFT about what signs and actions we are looking for and can expect when a partner is trying to build trust back into the marriage after infidelity and betrayal. We cover what that looks like staying in the relationship and also healing personally whether in the marriage or moving forward without our partner. The insight he shares is so helpful and eye opening, and offers clarity so we can make healthy decisions.
Our guest today is Geoff Steurer. He is a licensed marriage and family therapist with over 22 years of experience helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, and partner betrayal trauma. He is the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity" and the host of the weekly recovery podcast, "From Crisis to Connection". He has produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses to help couples rebuild broken trust. He received a bachelor’s in communications studies from BYU and a masters in marriage and family therapy from Auburn University. He maintains a private counseling practice in beautiful Southern Utah. He's been married for 25 years to Jody Young Steurer and they are the parents of four children.
Geoff is offering my listeners a discount on his trustbuilding course. To take advantage click the link and use the coupon code. This will give you 15% off the course! https://www.geoffsteurer.com/a/18461/ncZcL9iX Coupon Code: CHOOSEIN15
Customer testimonials
I've been so blessed to work with so many incredible people. I truly hope that my story can inspire and uplift others. These are just a few of the kind words I've received from people all over the world. Thank you for being a part of my journey!
Just listened to your episode on denial! Thank you for being so amazing! Always what I need to hear.
THANK YOU for doing what you do! You are helping me so much! I will be listening to your podcasts over and over as I am healing.
I am trying to heal from betrayal and find my self-worth again. I love your podcast and I wanted to say thank you for sharing your story.
Thank you so much for doing your podcast! I have listened to every episode and I love your honesty and courage! I have appreciated the knowledge that you have shared!
Your book, your podcasts, and even the quotes you post (I have countless screenshots of them) help me find little glimmers of hope here and there…and those are priceless and invaluable right now.
This show is the real deal. Roxanne has had experiences in life that make her the perfect person to give hope and a positive message, even through adversity. Her perspective is fantastic and she has a great voice for podcasting. This show will be a real blessing to so many.
Trauma is so hard to live with, living though it and seeing the other side is truly survival. Thank you for this podcast, I know it will help so many people. You have been a great inspiration for me! Can’t wait for more!
Roxanne shares the raw, unfiltered truth of her experience as the spouse of addict. She is vulnerable and direct. Her experience has helped me see why the path to my healing requires me to look at the real truth about myself even when it feels uncomfortable, even painful. I thought I could run from my pain, but she has shown me a much better path to real healing with God.
I read her book and I cried many times while reading it. I felt so validated as I was in the thick of betrayal trauma myself. It gave me hope. It gave me strength. I’m now looking forward to hearing more from Roxanne in her podcast!
Love a down to earth “truth-teller” who also exudes joy and shines hope into dark situations. Roxanne seems to know the meaning of happiness because she has also known the meaning of pain. Feels like she’ll be with me on the path wherever I happen to be walking TODAY. Looking forward to more episodes!
We are not alone. I loved how she used this statement at the beginning of her podcast. Roxanne shares how knowing that small fact pushed her to find freedom and light at the end of the dark tunnel. I found her podcast enlightening and full of hope.
This podcast is incredible. So many women will relate to Roxanne’s story. She is full of light and I look forward to hearing and learning from her podcast each week. I am choosing in!
Thank you! Thank you!! Thank you for sharing your story. It helps me to not feel alone! Thank you for sharing your experiences with truth and love. Thank you for your example. This podcast inspires women to choose self-love. To let go of fear and to choose in to healing. I am beyond grateful for your strength and honesty.
Roxanne tells her story in a way you feel as if you are sharing with each other across the table. Hot cups of cocoa in between you. You feel as if she is speaking to you directly. And sharing with the love and empathy we are all looking for. Even if your story is different or started different or is working out differently - “choose in” is for you! You will find answers to search out your own happiness and healing.
So happy I found your podcast. I feel like you are telling parts of my story and all the feelings you had while in it. You are helping me so much and giving me the strength I need to move forward because I know that he won’t change.
Real experiences with real solutions. It’s raw. It’s real. Roxanne offers hope regardless of what you are going through in your relationship.
Roxanne gets it! These podcasts are absolutely spot on! I’ve just started listening and have been recommending and sharing links to them with the betrayed spouses in the various groups I belong to. If you’re looking for help in healing, check them out!
I was guided to take the same path as Roxanne and have been divorced now for 9 months. Whether you are in the beginning, middle, or end of your own personal healing, this podcast is so helpful and encouraging. I have listened to multiple episodes more than once and always find something new I need to hear!
Thank you for sharing your story Roxanne and for reminding us all that we will get through it if we choose to do the work! My prayer is to find someone that is willing to do the work as well!
I love this podcast! It has helped me see who I am as I walk on the journey to heal from past beliefs and a divorce. So grateful for women who have done the work and are willing to share with others like Roxanne!
Roxanne is a light in the dark. She shares her insights and knowledge in a way that gives space and allows each of us the tools and time we need to heal and process all that life has put us through. -Jess
When I listen to your podcast, you literally help me more than the counseling I’ve done the past 2 years. You are a huge part of my healing.
Roxanne is A wealth of knowledge and a voice for those who need answers. When you think no will understand what you are going through, just listen to some of these awesome podcasts. -JGJR
I just needed you to know this podcast absolutely changed my heart. I needed this message so badly and I sobbed almost all the way through it. You sharing your story and your heart is changing me.
I swear you are such a big part of my healing process and you don’t even know it.
I had 2 clients tell me today how much your podcast resonated with them. One even said that you might be her partial soulmate! Thanks for all the good work you are doing in the world.
Your stories are so relatable and you take the words right out of my mouth.
I am listening to your podcast. I know God led me to it! I also currently reading your book
I can’t tell you enough how much I love your podcast! Thank you for giving us a voice and validating our experience!
Thank you for your inspiration and your podcast. It is everything to women like me.
Just listened to your episode on denial! Thank you for being so amazing! Always what I need to hear.
THANK YOU for doing what you do! You are helping me so much! I will be listening to your podcasts over and over as I am healing.
I am trying to heal from betrayal and find my self-worth again. I love your podcast and I wanted to say thank you for sharing your story.
Thank you so much for doing your podcast! I have listened to every episode and I love your honesty and courage! I have appreciated the knowledge that you have shared!
Your book, your podcasts, and even the quotes you post (I have countless screenshots of them) help me find little glimmers of hope here and there…and those are priceless and invaluable right now.
This show is the real deal. Roxanne has had experiences in life that make her the perfect person to give hope and a positive message, even through adversity. Her perspective is fantastic and she has a great voice for podcasting. This show will be a real blessing to so many.
Trauma is so hard to live with, living though it and seeing the other side is truly survival. Thank you for this podcast, I know it will help so many people. You have been a great inspiration for me! Can’t wait for more!
Roxanne shares the raw, unfiltered truth of her experience as the spouse of addict. She is vulnerable and direct. Her experience has helped me see why the path to my healing requires me to look at the real truth about myself even when it feels uncomfortable, even painful. I thought I could run from my pain, but she has shown me a much better path to real healing with God.
I read her book and I cried many times while reading it. I felt so validated as I was in the thick of betrayal trauma myself. It gave me hope. It gave me strength. I’m now looking forward to hearing more from Roxanne in her podcast!
Love a down to earth “truth-teller” who also exudes joy and shines hope into dark situations. Roxanne seems to know the meaning of happiness because she has also known the meaning of pain. Feels like she’ll be with me on the path wherever I happen to be walking TODAY. Looking forward to more episodes!
We are not alone. I loved how she used this statement at the beginning of her podcast. Roxanne shares how knowing that small fact pushed her to find freedom and light at the end of the dark tunnel. I found her podcast enlightening and full of hope.
This podcast is incredible. So many women will relate to Roxanne’s story. She is full of light and I look forward to hearing and learning from her podcast each week. I am choosing in!
Thank you! Thank you!! Thank you for sharing your story. It helps me to not feel alone! Thank you for sharing your experiences with truth and love. Thank you for your example. This podcast inspires women to choose self-love. To let go of fear and to choose in to healing. I am beyond grateful for your strength and honesty.
Roxanne tells her story in a way you feel as if you are sharing with each other across the table. Hot cups of cocoa in between you. You feel as if she is speaking to you directly. And sharing with the love and empathy we are all looking for. Even if your story is different or started different or is working out differently - “choose in” is for you! You will find answers to search out your own happiness and healing.
So happy I found your podcast. I feel like you are telling parts of my story and all the feelings you had while in it. You are helping me so much and giving me the strength I need to move forward because I know that he won’t change.
Real experiences with real solutions. It’s raw. It’s real. Roxanne offers hope regardless of what you are going through in your relationship.
Roxanne gets it! These podcasts are absolutely spot on! I’ve just started listening and have been recommending and sharing links to them with the betrayed spouses in the various groups I belong to. If you’re looking for help in healing, check them out!
I was guided to take the same path as Roxanne and have been divorced now for 9 months. Whether you are in the beginning, middle, or end of your own personal healing, this podcast is so helpful and encouraging. I have listened to multiple episodes more than once and always find something new I need to hear!
Thank you for sharing your story Roxanne and for reminding us all that we will get through it if we choose to do the work! My prayer is to find someone that is willing to do the work as well!
I love this podcast! It has helped me see who I am as I walk on the journey to heal from past beliefs and a divorce. So grateful for women who have done the work and are willing to share with others like Roxanne!
Roxanne is a light in the dark. She shares her insights and knowledge in a way that gives space and allows each of us the tools and time we need to heal and process all that life has put us through. -Jess
When I listen to your podcast, you literally help me more than the counseling I’ve done the past 2 years. You are a huge part of my healing.
Roxanne is A wealth of knowledge and a voice for those who need answers. When you think no will understand what you are going through, just listen to some of these awesome podcasts. -JGJR
I just needed you to know this podcast absolutely changed my heart. I needed this message so badly and I sobbed almost all the way through it. You sharing your story and your heart is changing me.
I swear you are such a big part of my healing process and you don’t even know it.
I had 2 clients tell me today how much your podcast resonated with them. One even said that you might be her partial soulmate! Thanks for all the good work you are doing in the world.
Your stories are so relatable and you take the words right out of my mouth.
I am listening to your podcast. I know God led me to it! I also currently reading your book
I can’t tell you enough how much I love your podcast! Thank you for giving us a voice and validating our experience!
Thank you for your inspiration and your podcast. It is everything to women like me.